Dating: Confessions of a Single Mom
Dating SUCKS!! Yup, I said it and said it loud. As a women, I want to believe that I won’t always be a single Mom. I would like to meet someone that I can enjoy things that aren’t listening to stories about Fortnite and Lego. Don’t get me wrong, I love my son unconditionally but a little adult conversation once in a while is appreciated.
Maybe I am just too old fashion, or expect too much, but I still believe that love can exist and chivalry is not dead. Although I take pride in being an independent strong women, a girl likes to be made to feel special once in a while. And sometimes when I hang out with my married friends and they are disagreeing or bickering, I kind of revel in fact that I don’t have those issues being single. But more often than not, by no fault of theirs, I end up feeling like a 3rd wheel.
I would personally prefer to find someone via a friend or acquaintance. Someone who can sort of give them the thumbs up. Kind of like prescreening them for me. And I know that doesn’t always mean it’s going to work but a little sort of reassurance they aren’t a total creep goes a long way, if you know what I mean.
But let’s be honest, finding that special someone isn’t easy or fun. Dating sites not only are daunting, but a total crap shoot. I want to believe that there are some good ones still out there, but knowing my luck, I will find the ax murderer among the group or get totally cat fished. And scrolling through profile after profile just seems a little cold. Maybe it’s just me, but trying to make a choice of a potential mate needs a little more personal interaction, not just based on a profile pic. They could look good in their photo but turn out to be a total jerk and the opposite could be true as well. I may judge a book by it’s cover and miss out on a truly sweet and genuine guy.
And again maybe I am just way too old school, but cheesy pick up lines and sexual innuendo’s right out of the gate didn’t work for me in the past and they won’t work for me now. Why do men feel like it’s appropriate or at all what women want to see/hear? Does hiding behind a screen give them more inclination to push the envelope? And if that is just their general nature, it’s not the type of man I want to meet in the first place.
And if you’re lucky enough to find someone that you want to start dating, a whole new can of worms gets opened. At my age, there is a good chance that a potential suitor will have his own children and some sort of custody arrangement. Anyone who knows me, knows that my son will always be my first priority and I would expect nothing less from the other person. So scheduling time together can become a logistical nightmare.
Between my schedule, their schedule and life in between, time for a date can often be hard to find. I guess it if it’s something worth exploring, time will be found. We will make it work.
And I have never been a good dater. That uncertainty, that nervous sick to my stomach feeling before meeting someone for the first time and then that non-stop babbling like an idiot I do because I am overcome with nerves. It’s a complete gong show. I always leave feeling defeated and pretty uncertain that 2nd date will come.
But in the end, I still believe that some day my prince will come. Not sure when and not sure how, but a girl has to have something to believe in. I will keep trying and hoping but will definitely not like the process. So fingers crossed for me friends. But like I said from the beginning, dating sucks!