I will never forget that day. It was March 2009 and I was standing in the empty living room of the home I had just rented, crying to break my heart. I remember saying to my Mom, who was trying to comfort me, “What have I done?”.
My marriage was over and was moving out of our marital home into this rental. At the time I wasn’t thinking about the neighborhood, the school my son was going to eventually attend, all I was thinking is I needed a place to live.
At that moment suddenly the magnitude of what was happening in my life came crashing down around me and all I could worry about was how was I going to do this all on my own. It wasn’t just me now, I had a 6 month old to take care of too.
I look back at the day and can happily say that given the circumstances, moving into that home was probably one of the best decisions I ever made.
It’s now almost 7 years later and we could not ask for a better community to live in. We are blessed to be part of a community that has that small town feel. People see my silly posts on Facebook wishing Timmy’s had a delivery service and bring me a coffee on a cold Sunday morning, a fellow parent sees that my son has spilled his soup on himself at school and goes home and brings him dry clothes knowing I am at work and unable to get to him right away, friends will let me drop my son off to them the few times I have to go into work early so I don’t have pay for daycare. People genuinely care about each other and help each other out when in need.
Most recently, we have seen the amazing results of parents working together to bring even more of that small town feel to our community in building an outdoor skating rink in our local park. It has been an instant hit. Everyday I drive by it is filled with kids skating, playing hockey and ringette and parents watching and laughing with each other. Every time we’ve gone, there are no worries if anyone can’t skate well or is nervous on the ice, it is the most welcoming place for kids to learn and play. So many parents have commented how much the kids want to be there and are happy to put down their iPads, and gaming systems to come out and skate. In this day and age and especially in the winter, this is remarkable. This spot has become such at hit that yesterday, it was the focus of a report on Channel 12 CHEX TV Durham.
So when I hear the phrase “It takes a village”, a smile comes to my face. From a dark and dreary place in my life, I was lucky enough to find my “village”.